Marriage and Family

Unity of Purpose in Marriage

“If you find any comfort from being in the Lord, if His love brings you some encouragement, if you experience true companionship with the Spirit, if His tenderness and mercy fill your heart;

then, brothers and sisters, here is one thing that would complete my joy –

come together as one in mind and spirit and purpose, sharing in the same love. Don’t let selfishness and prideful agendas take over. Embrace true humility and lift your heads to extend love to others. Get beyond yourselves and protecting your own interests; be sincere and secure your neighbors’ interests first.” Philippians 2:1-4 (Voice)


Husbands and wives must agree above all else that Jesus is Lord. This is a decision that David and I made personally when we were baptized. That decision changed the way we lived and has transformed our marriage. Knowing that my husband has made the Bible his standard has built confidence and security in our relationship. We live this decision out together. If Jesus is first, then

everything else will fall into place much easier.

As a married couple your greatest efforts will be devoted to reaching out to non-Christians and in building up the brothers and sisters in the church.

“Can two people walk together without agreeing on the direction?” Amos 3:3 (NLT)

If a husband or wife chooses to love the world and its pleasures above God, the strain will immediately be felt.

Q: When was the last time, as a couple, you had a conversation about how to help each other spiritually? There will be times that one of you will be doing better spiritually than the other.

Q: Have you given each other permission to sharpen one another and get help if needed? Philippians 2 says to “embrace true humility and extend love” to one another.

Q: As a married couple are you unified in reaching out to the lost, building up the church, and relationships within the body?

Q: Do you engage each other and go deep in conversation or do you ignore concerns that you might see?

Q: Do you build up your spouse daily with spiritual encouragement? We typically think of Hebrews 3:13 is for others in the body but how about our spouse?